Happy International Women's Day!
We are smart, kind, ambitious and most of all, BLOODY STRONG.
Mia Boonen & Ella Crowley have both written letters to feminism - expressing their love for womanhood and their problems with the patriarchy.
We're all in this together.
You've got a smile that could light up this whole town
I haven't seen it in a while since she brought you down
You say you're fine
I know you better then that
Hey what you doing with a girl like that?
- Taylor Swift
Feminism is such a nuanced topic.
There are so many different facets to it, and even though so much progress has been made, we still have a long way to go until equality is reached.
The patriarchy runs deep.
We all hold pieces of it deep inside us.
I am no exception.
I identify myself as a feminist-in-training,
For while I do believe in equality for all
I’m not blind to the fact that I have so much to learn.
No one is perfect.
Then you realise she's right there
And you're at home like, "Damn, she can't compare"
Break up with your girlfriend
Yeah, yeah, 'cause I'm bored
- Ariana Grande
Something that is still very evident today is women tearing other women down.
It’s a tough instinct to shake
It begins with society constantly teaching us to compare ourselves to other women,
Then sells us products so we can look like them.
Then it transforms into us putting down other women due to a manufactured jealousy that we didn't ask for, but was given to us by these crazy unattainable standards.
You ain't married to no average b**ch boy
Even the feminist warriors that we look up to and aspire to, demonstrate this “women-hating-women” mentality.
Singers like Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande and even God herself, Beyonce - all have lyrics bringing down other women in relation to attaining a man.
But she wears short skirts
I wear T-shirts
She's cheer captain
And I'm on the bleachers
- Taylor Swift
I think the biggest example of this unconscious act of female sabotage is the ideal of “I’m not like other girls”. The idea that something popular amongst women is “basic” and should be avoided.
Now this may seem small, just harmless comments that don’t really mean anything.
But it is these small things,
This internalised misogyny
Which is going to prevent real change from occurring.
For we can educate the new generation
We can rally
We can for our right to choose
But until we ourselves work to remove the remains of what was taught to us
We will never fully achieve progress.
Cause she's like so, whatever
You could do so much better
I think we should get together now
- Avril Lavigne
To quote the cinematic classic, High School Musical, We’re all in this together.
It’s important that we support each other.
Lift each other up.
Of course I believe that women should be held accountable for their actions.
The same as men.
It’s equality we are fighting for after all.
But I do believe that we should all try that little bit harder
To be a team
And look after each other.
My grandmothers gave me my names and my history.
My mother gave me life.
Today, I give myself time.
I give myself an hour or two extra to sleep.
I give myself an episode or two of Jane Fonda and Lily Tomlin.
Their friendship is older than I am.
And oh, how they make me laugh.
So much of a woman’s life is spent fighting.
Today, I give myself laughter.
I give myself flowers.
Roses, to be exact.
I give myself an hour or two for breakfast in bed.
Oh, all the time in the world: that’s what I give myself today.
In the evening, I ask my housemate to list the great things about women.
She says, “Boobs. And brains like warriors.”
I think she’s right.
And yes, I thank my mother. I thank the childhood friend who ruled alongside me in our imagined queendom. I thank my teachers, my mentors, my co-conspirators and my friends. I thank those who make the art I admire and those with whom I make art. I thank every woman who has taken us one step further and I tell them all that I will keep walking,
Just maybe not today.
Today, I give myself time.
I give myself permission to write something without intending for it to change the world.
We spend so much time fighting.
Today, I take my time.